Reader,

This weekend I was in the feels, going through Kleenex like I had stock in it.

It was the same old pattern: my son upset my daughter. They started fighting. I got overwhelmed. The tears started rolling.

It's been a pattern for years.

I always assumed I was releasing old emotions… but I never actually felt better afterward.

Now that I only see them part time, I don't want to be the mom that cries whenever they're around.

This time, instead of disappearing into the emotions, I asked:

"What would Vixen do?"

(That's the name I've given my future self.)

Turns out - she would stop telling herself she's a bad mom, put on some cute clothes, and dance to 2000s booty music.

Mood improved. Thanks, Eminem! 🎤 I was able to return to the present, patient mom I want to be.

Most people think living intentionally is coming up with goals and deciding what you want to do.

Sure, that can work.

But the question that has taken me even further - the one that's pulled me from my endless healing cycle and started actually moving my life forward - isn't "what do I need to DO about this?"

It's "who do I want to BE in this situation?"

And intentionally thinking / feeling like / becoming HER.

That's what I help my clients practice.

Not fixing themselves, or processing the same emotions forever.

But becoming the version of themselves who naturally responds differently.

➡️ If that question - "who do I want to be in this situation" - stirred something in you: I'd love to explore it with you. Reply to this email and we can chat!

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